Neurodivergent Couples Money & Chore Playbook — product cover

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About this product

Format: PDF eBook (139 pages) + fillable PDF workbook (14 pages, 98 fields), delivered as ZIP

WHAT IT IS

A practical household-systems playbook for couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent (ADHD/autism traits framed inclusively and non-diagnostically) — and where money and chores generate more conflict than they should. The core reframe: it's the system, not the person. Eleven chapters build a complete two-brain household operating system: mapping both brains, the 20-minute weekly money meeting, account architecture, bills on autopilot, the chore rebuild, capacity-based fairness, spending honesty systems, low-capacity season plans, repair-after-conflict scripts, and the quarterly reset that keeps it all alive.

EVERY CHAPTER INCLUDES

  • A concrete "Together Move" action box (one completable step per week)
  • Word-for-word conversation scripts for the hard talks (proposing the meeting, circuit breakers, the disclosure ritual, the flex signal, the four-part repair script, asking for professional help)

KEY SYSTEMS

  • The Money Meeting: 20-minute weekly ritual with a five-part agenda, timer, and safety rules
  • Account Architecture: yours/mine/ours patterns, funding rules, and the buffer — chosen for your brains
  • Autopilot Thinking: the automatic/cued/manual hierarchy for every recurring bill
  • The Chore Rebuild: visible workload mapping, trading by strength and sensory cost, negotiated standards, loop-closing design
  • Fairness vs Fifty-Fifty: capacity-based splitting with a shame-free flex protocol
  • Honesty Systems: pause tiers, wish lists, friction engineering, and a no-shame disclosure ritual
  • Season Plans: maintenance mode, chore/money triage, and post-season resets
  • Repair After Conflict: the four-part repair script + listener's script + restart protocol

PLEASE NOTE

  • Educational household systems only. This book is not therapy, not couples counseling, not financial advice, and does not diagnose any condition. Couples in significant distress are directed to licensed professionals.
  • No statistics, no financial figures, no product or bank recommendations, no guarantees. Money is discussed qualitatively throughout.
  • Distinct from our other titles: Product 81 (The Zero-Nagging Executive Function Playbook) is for parents of teens; Product 61 (Envelope Budget OS) is a budgeting spreadsheet. This playbook is the couple's complete money-and-chores system — communication rituals, scripts, and household architecture for two neurodivergent (or mixed) brains.

What's included

  • Neurodivergent-Couples-Money-Chore-Playbook.pdf — 139 pages, 36,147 words, 11 chapters + 5 appendices
  • Couples-Money-Chore-Workbook-Fillable.pdf — 14 pages, 98 fillable fields (brain maps for both partners, meeting agendas, architecture sketch, bills inventory, workload map, pause tiers + wish list, season plan, quarterly reset, repair log)
  • README-license.txt

Key features

  • The Money Meeting → a 20-minute weekly ritual with a five-part agenda, timer, and safety rules
  • Account architecture → yours/mine/ours patterns, funding rules, and the buffer — chosen for your brains
  • Autopilot thinking → the automatic/cued/manual hierarchy for every recurring bill, with a bills inventory in the workbook
  • The Chore Rebuild → visible workload mapping, trading by strength and sensory cost, negotiated standards, loop-closing design
  • Fairness vs fifty-fifty → capacity-based splitting with a shame-free flex protocol
  • Honesty systems → pause tiers, wish lists, friction engineering, and a no-shame disclosure ritual
  • Season plans and repair → low-capacity season plans, chore/money triage, and the four-part repair script + listener's script + restart protocol
  • Scripts for the hard talks → word-for-word starting language throughout, from proposing the meeting to asking for professional help
  • Fillable workbook → 14 pages, 98 fields, including brain maps for both partners and a repair log
  • One step per chapter → a "Together Move" in every chapter

Frequently asked questions

Is this therapy or couples counseling?

No — educational household systems only. This book is not therapy, not couples counseling, not financial advice, and does not diagnose any condition. Couples in significant distress are directed to licensed professionals.

Do both partners need to be neurodivergent?

No — the playbook is written for couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent (or mixed), with ADHD/autism traits framed inclusively and non-diagnostically.

Does it give budgeting numbers or financial recommendations?

No — no statistics, no financial figures, no product or bank recommendations, no guarantees. Money is discussed qualitatively throughout.

What is the "Together Move"?

Every chapter ends with one — a concrete action box with one completable step per week, alongside word-for-word scripts for the hard talks.

What's in the workbook?

A 14-page fillable PDF with 98 fields: brain maps for both partners, meeting agendas, architecture sketch, bills inventory, workload map, pause tiers + wish list, season plan, quarterly reset, and repair log.

How is this different from your other titles?

Product 81 (The Zero-Nagging Executive Function Playbook) is for parents of teens; Product 61 (Envelope Budget OS) is a budgeting spreadsheet. This playbook is the couple's complete money-and-chores system — communication rituals, scripts, and household architecture for two neurodivergent (or mixed) brains.

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Neurodivergent Couples Money & Chore Playbook

A practical household-systems playbook for couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent — and where money and chores generate more conflict than they should. Eleven chapters build a complete two-brain household operating system, plus a 14-page fillable workbook with 98 fields.

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